What did you want to be when you were little? Describe your ideal day? Who makes you laugh? What's the one place you would like to travel to...NOW? Go ahead, take your time and answer. I'll wait.
On a recent rainy night, moms from my Playgroup were lured to an art therapy event with the promise of inspired thinking...and pizza. I wasn't going to let my absent mindedness of temporarily losing the key to the space we were using that night stop us from our vision quest. After all, people were counting on me to host and I was bringing the pizza. "New Year, Inspired You" was going down no if's--and's--or buts about it!
I met my co-host for the evening, Sophia Mercadante Greenberg, Therapist and Owner of Building Mindful Connections, online. She posted a blurb on a local forum about the importance of self care during new mom-hood and I was convinced I had to meet this wise woman. With some thoughtful planning we organized an evening of self-awareness focused on moms and their visions for the new year. Sophia and the rest of the women arrived with magazines, paper, scissors and glue sticks in hand. The task? VISION BOARDS.
As we perused magazines from 2007 we sipped wine and talked about ourselves...our husbands...our lives before kids...our lives now with kids, and our plans for the future. I felt inspired by the fact that, no matter how varied our pasts were and how crazy our current lives are, for the new year, we shared a common goal -- rejuvenation. We all spoke of positivity and maintaining peace of mind.
None of us had every really made Vision Boards before. I consider myself a creative DIY diva and an introspective person to a fault -- how could I have never done this eye-opening exercise before? I wondered...how can I keep the promises I am making to myself?
Sophia answered with tid bits on self-awareness and self-care. Notice the emphasis on the "self." She said her goal for the evening was to provide moms with some time away from their daily routines to think about what they want for themselves -- not just their families,
This hit home for me. New motherhood is exhausting and overwhelming. I am a year and a half into it this life shift and I still get lost and jumbled up sometimes. My little Shep-centric world changes daily and the only way to keep up with it is to reflect on who I am and stay inspired to continue to forge ahead on my path as the ever-evolving Allegra. As we explained our boards to the group, I shared that while I wasn't sure where exactly I was headed in 2016, I knew what my vision was -- "inspired, focused, fun, strategic, creative."